Hey guysss! It’s been a while since I dropped a blog post, been battling with mental health stability lately, but now I’m getting a hold of myself which means I can write again, I’m so excited🥰🥰💃🏽💃🏽. Hope you all are staying safe and taking the necessary precautions, I know most of us can’t wait to go out there and have some fun, at least I’m sure of this part of the world. I really can’t wait to go out and have some great chicken and few glasses of cocktail. I just miss things being normal. Enough said about the boring things, let’s kick off with the juicy ones!
TM’s philosophy on relationships: Never go into a relationship with the mindset of changing their lifestyle for your selfish reasons, vice versa.
I know how we all might see someone we like, though not what/ who we really need, or not who we would be with,, hence you feel like if you go into a relationship with this person, you can change them into what you want regardless of how they feel. Well, I’m here to tell you today that you’re nothing but a selfish person.
I am not saying change isn’t good when needed, don’t get me wrong, but changing them because so your friends or YOU can say some particular things about your spouse is EXTREMELY BAD AND SELFISH, you’re not dating a robot or an object that you just put reset factory settings on them. Dating or going into a relationship with someone is dating them for who they are, realizing their faults, making them understand their flaws, (some do not even realize that they have setbacks) also, and help them work to being a better person.
If one isn’t changing their spouse, they’re probably changing their lifestyle to suit their spouse, now that is one thing I don’t regard or appreciate about going into a relationship, and this highly conversant with the ladies; STOP CHANGING YOUR MODE OF LIFESTYLE TO SUIT YOUR SPOUSE IF IT DOESN’T SUIT YOU! I don’t know how much I can lay emphasis on this! I see some ladies doing the most just to please a man, knowing it’s not their way of life, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying do not please your man, or make him happy, but some ladies be doing the most, and it will end up being a disaster because it is not your way of life, the man you might be doing heaven and earth for might still cheat on you, so please make sure you’re having as much fun as you please or satisfy your man, the world becomes a happy place for you both.
One of beautiful things about being in a relationship with someone who has flaws(flaws that needs urgent attention, everyone has flaws, depending on the level it is on), is helping them realizing it, and making them a better person FOR THEM. When they gradually become better, they tend to want to do better for you, you become their uttermost treasure, they’d treat you like a king or queen that you are, make you happy at almost all the time, then you’d realize that you didn’t need to change them for you, but for them, so they can be happy for the better person they are gradually growing to become, and even IF! Just IF!! You both ever split they’d be a better person for the next spouse And for the world at large.
Most importantly, if you have tried to change them for them and they do not realize it, please do not go into a relationship or if you’re in it, please leave such situationship before it gets reallyyy toxic, trust me you do not want to be in an unhealthy relationship. 🤗🤗🤗
That would be all for today, I am so glad i was able write today, I feel soooo good writing today, and I’m sure you guys would feel as excited to read it. I’d be sure to write next week, make sure you read and share amongst friends! Byeeee! See you soon. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️